I have a dear friend who likes to beat herself up with a hammer every other day as she is addicted to pain. The “hammer” is bad food and the “addiction” is truly just our set of old habits that we have created for ourselves. We all do it to some extent. We have a routine we repeat whenever the right combination of stress and fatigue reaches our brain. We relive and replay that same set or neuronal responses and then proclaim that its simply “who we are”. You are 1000% correct it is who you are but the question is “how is that working for you?”

Nancy sat before me 3 months ago with her easy smile and her happy face that always bring me joy. I love spending time with her as she represents what is right in this world. She is caring, understanding, helpful to others and truly a blessing in this world full of cynical whiners. But at our last meeting I challenged her with the notion that perhaps her excu